Red and The Pledge

A member of my community had posted this on our local papers website.

I remembered Red Skelton and his funny antics from my childhood. My father used to laugh so hard as he watched him on television. As a child it was always nice to see your parents laugh.~  After I had started to watch the video, my thoughts went beyond my dad...

http://www.redskelton.com/

One person in the community was touched by this and they wanted to share it. You see how the tinkle of life went there? Their post went on to empower me today! I want to do the same for you. "I am an American. I am proud to be an American. Everyone should be proud of who they are. I love all of my brothers and sisters of all cultures!"  "We Are Family"~

"In this crazy life you make me sing"~

Enjoy your moments out there~ God Bless All

Allow me to introduce myself. My name is Valerie. I am a “HUGE” believer of positive humanistic psychology. People say that there are always two sides to a story. This is true! The other side of negative is POSITIVE! It is all simple logic. The task of implementing what we know we should do is not an easy one. Look at life in a positive way? Sure! I can do that! Not everyday though. Things happen and sometimes things are just crappy. How we handle those things though will determine how the rest of your flow is going to go!


Let the negativity from others get under your skin and you can fire it back like no other! That would not be the best result in the end. I believe as we get older we tend to become wiser and look at life differently for all sorts of reasons. We become more understanding. We can often become more impatient. It is a double edged sword.

When you leave a place that is filled with positive attitude it can only help but make you more positive in your life! It is all about your environment. My goal is to help create the kind of environment that can be beneficial to your stressors, give some laughter, understanding, support, and occasional pillow fights; just to keep the fun-factor high, and much more.

If we do this together it will be our place. It is not just one sided here. It is a community garden of beautiful seeds we are going to plant as a team! With communication between us all it is a win-win situation.

Your patience is greatly appreciated with the new transit of this blog and I promise not to let you down!

Sincerely…Valerie
(there will be more about me soon)

Being Tested Again

I just wanted to say thank you for your very kind patience on this blog.
There are a few kinks in my blog template. I have been working to rectify these bumps. One of the problems is the "Read More" link. I wanted you to know that it is being addressed and I will take care of it as soon as I know the answer. You guys are wonderful. See how we help each other and don't even know it? Here I am posting to you about my patience and I am thanking you for yours. You helped remind me... Thank you very much, from the bottom of my heart. Now skeet~skont~skeedaddle~!

"Work those pixels in your life's image today"~Valerie...

Front Register Needs Assistance

One of the best tools you can use to life coach for yourself is to ask one question. "Why?"  Why is this lady taking forever to get through the line at the check-out?  I mean, she is really slowing this line down. I understand she is an elderly woman. The look of her appears to be around early eighties. Today who can tell?  She was cute as a button though.  Her pink cheeks and short gray hair with a white sweater, made you just want to give her a hug. "You may be cute grandma but, your backing up the line!" I was not mad. However, I was not lets say...umm...happy...

As I stood there watching the cashier try to help this gal scan her debit card, I was patient. The elderly man in front of me that appeared to be in his early seventies.His baggy blue jeans were held up by a belt and his plaid shirt with tints of blue made is eyes sparkle, he was too was patient. The more the cashier tried, the slower it got!  How hard is this? Scan the card, sign and go... I looked at the clock on my cell phone and I have to admit made a sigh.~ I was getting late for where I needed to be! There was only one other checkout open and the express lane. I had too many items for the express lane. I looked up at the elderly woman again to see if she was done. After I had been passing the time trying to look at the magazines on display, they were finally finishing her up and we were MOVING!  Sweet!  I was happy again to keep moving on with what I had to do. Then the elderly woman did something that only could knock you back into that pile of (make ya feel like crap goo) feeling, by doing something that I knew I was gonna get it! I knew it was coming. She was looking right at us all standing there. She knew it was taking a long time. And then she did it!..


She looked up at all of us behind her and said; "Thank you for being patient."  She had to go there. She had to be a sweet soul. Now I feel like doo-doo. Thanks lady. Now there is officially "Crap" in the store. If you listen closely, you can hear them say " Clean up, Register 1, Crap in the line!" Don't get me wrong. It wasn't that mass pandemonium was breaking out because she was taking a lot longer in line but, it was one of those times that things were just not going like they usually do. There is a rhythm that we get used to in life. When it gets bounced out of our normalcy we can find irritation in the small things. It felt like a whole day was passing! OK, maybe not that bad. She got us though! The little old gal won the award on human spirit in that moment. Even someone that is one of the most optimistic people you could ever meet, a real nice soul, such as myself, does get frustrated over little stuff like everyone else out there sometimes...

This is one of those times that it could have been you up there holding that line up. There could be someone behind you that has somewhere more critical to be than you did. In the end... It was no big deal! The earth wasn't devastated. We were alive! How could I get frustrated over something so little and silly? Because I am human, that's why. However, how I handle this next will attach itself to the structure of who I am and want to be in life...

Thinking about things a little deeper can help your reflection of the whole situation. Because I had some reflection on my situation at the store, I will make sure to think about how bad they feel up there ahead. Being in the front of the line that is taking for-ev-er...

"Now run! Be free! Do what you need to do today! And if your feelin up to it...smile at a senior citizen today! Do something for them. Take their trash out, cut their grass, anything (big or small). They were you at one time. Everyone has a story inside them. Remember to respect their novel of life and appreciate humanity. They have more life skills to-date than you know. Respect the sweet pink cheeks of the world! God love em~"

New Apps 4Peeps

You can download yourself the best; app, gadget, widget, gizmo, to your real self. It's for "Peeps." Ok it is for people. It's awesome! A real downloadable application to make you feel good whenever you want! It is right outside your very own door. A phone call away! It’s that easy! People want to complain about jobs being taken out of their community. I feel your pain. I honestly do. It has hit close to home for me. I understand that there are some things we need to buy outside of our local area. We do need each other in the world. However, if you start to make a choice to buy locally, you can make a difference in your town and in yourself. It’s true! I pinkie swear!(x) However, your local family needs you too. I needed my community family and I didn’t even know it…

My community watched over resources and made a plan to help me if I needed them in any way. They encouraged me to move forward and were an intrinsic part of my success. I have been asked to be on advisory councils, advisory panels, and became an advocate for passionate issues. This has opened up a door to a relationship with National Women’s Law Association for me. I am so happy to have them as my community. I want you to find that same connection that can change your life in some way. The smallest ways have often the biggest impacts. I encourage you, no wait... "I Triple Dog Dare" ya, to go find out what it can do for your inner spirit. The inner-spirit, inner-body, inner-mind, whatever it is that you are searching for it could be there. Your hobby could be another persons dream…

Imagine this…If you are buying local, then the money that you spend is more likely to stay in your community. The truth is that there are many leaders in our community’s that do love their hometown and its people. They care about what it stands for! What our fathers fought for! They do it because of the love in their hearts for fellow humanity. There are many good reasons to get involved in your community. I have found a wonderful website as a tool for you to research. http://http//sustainableconnections.org/thinklocal/why/

After looking at the site I hope you look into downloading that personal community application to your own dashboard of life. The application allows you to remind yourself to get out there and be a part of the life going on around you and your family. It is your town. Don't give it away. The New APP for People. Steve Jobs can't touch this one peeps! It's all you...

“Inspire your desire. Make an effort to do what you always think your going to do someday. Just get started! Baby steps is good. One thing at a time. They appreciate you and I know you will appreciate their works. Keep moving forward and smiling at the sun! It smiles back ya know.”

Sofa Update:
Good job on the coffee cup situation btw…“however, could someone make sure to check for their socks when they leave. Their was some gym socks under the couch. It wasn’t pretty for a while. It’s ok, I have fabreeze.~ just fyi.”

Bent Not Broken

A good friend of mine was talking to me the other day outside her home in the country.  Teresa has a huge garden! There are barns, cats, dogs, trucks, tractors, trailers, pick-up trucks, flower beds, you name it and its a country atmosphere. Teresa is a proud Texan! One of the strongest women I have the honor of calling my friend.  We were standing outside in the fresh air and surrounded by nature discussing life and moving forward.  I told her that I did not want to let anyone down that was reading my blog.  I was afraid of being a failure, a hypocrite that could not take her own advice about positive thinking, a big loser in the attempt of helping others.  If I fail at helping people on my own accord, then I am a waste of energy. After all, who was I?  (That is a whole other Oprah show...)  I am genuine about helping others.  However, sometimes I have my doubts on where I am supposed to be in my life...

We all have our own trunk of issues. We all have stuff. Those are the moments in our library that we would rather just delete. That is not so easy to do.  However, how you handle it does!  Teresa said;"she may be bent at times but, never broken." Then it hit me! "We are not broken as long as we are willing to keep moving forward in our lives and bend during the storms"...I love this analogy!

So remind yourself that you are not broken and are just bent a little sometimes. OK, we are bent more than we want to be on occasion. We can get down-right crooked into that Yoga position that makes us scream "UNCLE!"  But, it is OK to be upside down with your inner self sometimes.  It sounds corny to some. The inner self and what it means but, you don't know it until you have tried it. There is true meaning in everything you look at. Try not to judge the idea and take look at what is inside of you. Are you bent a little? We won't let you break. What can you do a little house cleaning on?  After all, it is spring! A time for spring cleaning isn't it?

Use this time in your life to reflect, direct, detect, and eject yourself from those good and bad moments in your personal library. And remember that we are all the same. Don't be afraid to bend a little. Just keep working on focusing positive motivation and look within yourself. We are all trying to  heal ourselves in some way. We want to think better, live better, act better, do everything better!  And why not?  We want to be the best vessel and instrument that the world can play~. The more people are reaching out to each other, the more they are finding that there is a whole underground of thinking just like themselves. "We are all family."

As family member in life, I want to share this. I feel so deeply compelled to let you how much you are appreciated by someone out there. People become surprised that you can respect what they are doing, or what they are going through when you do not even know them. The world seemed a bit self-absorbed for a while. Things are different in our culture as a world. People do care about you. It may have not been until we had lost something that we became humbled. It is OK to be down with skidded knees. That is when we need each other the most. Many strangers help others without recognition. There are people and tools to help you get there. We can not all help in the same areas of need, but we sure can try to guide you where you need to go.  Sometimes just being there for someone is a great sense of comfort... 

Speaking of comfort--someone is leaving their their coffee cups on the arm of the couch.  Please remove all trash when exiting the room and turn out the lights. Gotta go green ya know! Thanks again for stopping by and get out and enjoy your weekend! Just a reminder: I do not post on the weekends.  That time I preserve for my family and friends. I make sure that I try to stay focused and grounded with real life and real people. The Internet is an amazing tool and I support its intrinsic part to life! I am trying to maintain balance with family, life, and work. We all do this and know it is not so easy to adapt to. It is do-able! It may not always be perfect but, it is do-able! So I am trying to walk the walk, and adapt to a plan that helps me with balance. I hope it comes soon because I used to get car sick. I wonder if it could carry over...oh goodness, I hope not...

Now go have some moments!  Any moment. There are so many and they all have beauty within each one. Even the quiet ones have a way of giving us a sense of "calm."  So whatever your moments are, embrace them and live in them... 

" Work That Art In Motion"    

LOOK AT WHAT CAN BE DONE TOGETHER

I am so excited about this I almost wet my pants!  Seriously! This gave me such an uncontrollable energy that could propel positive tornado's everywhere!  How great is that?  I was catching up on the DVR of what I had recorded previously. Well, needless to day I am a huge Oprah fan! When I saw the "Update Show" I was so excited when she brought out the amazing Stephen!  GiveBack was founded by Stephen Paletta, the winner of Oprah’s Big Give, a television show that aired in 2008.

The concept of her show was giving people a chance to give money away to help others.  This was great! She gave each person the ability to raise money and give back to society.  The one who gave the most would become the winner.  What they did not know what that the prize would be ONE MILLION dollars!

There was only one catch to the winnings. Half of it had to be donated to charity.  Any Charity that the winner say fit. With his winnings Stephen went on to do this... https://www.giveback.org/pages/about/oprah.aspx

This is such an awesome concept of how we can gather as a group everyone! Our own charities, any charities.  When you shop online at the site with any of the stores such as Nike, Macy, Target and tons more, you get cash-back into your own account on the site! The great thing is that you can designate it where you want your donations you earned by shopping to go.  The generous stores have signed up with the site and they donate a percent of all of your purchases through them. It truly is the gift that keeps on giving...

I just love this!  Check it out and enjoy... Have an exciting day with laughter and smiles! 

BATTEN DOWN THE HATCHES

How are you handling the storm?

To find out more about Nick Vujicic : http://www.lifewithoutlimbs.org/

It's Only For A Moment

How can you feel good when there are so many things going on in your life that is causing you stress?  Remember this..."because it is only for a moment".  Guess what?  We just had another one.  And another! This is pretty amazing when you think about it.  We get moments...  I know earlier today, or this past week you had a good moment.  There had to be something?  Someone smiled at you? A stranger being kind?  Someone hold the door open? I know you had at least 1 good moment out there in the past 7 days.  Think about it...

Society today is searching more for  that "aha," moment.  They are fantastic!  When you understand and realize something that is so profound to you it changes your life and thinking.  We do not always have those moments. That is why they are so amazing and we make that noise. It is awesome! You know, the one that sounds like we are deflating a little bit as we euphorically say; "aha..."  This is why we keep searching and growing to understand things.  When we do have theses awesome moments of understanding and moving forward we feel good! It makes those negative moments seem obscure. Less important and manageble.
I understand that you may be having that moment of negativity or stress today. We all have them.  We know it makes us feel better when we remember what we do have. We understand when people tell us that tomorrow is a new day. Sometimes we just need to remember how important it was for us to be here. It was a plan that is larger than anyone.  Your DNA, is so unique that they broke the mold when you were born!  That my friend is pretty cool when you think about it.  There is no other YOU out there!

What makes you so great? Lots of things. You are on my blog for starters.  I am very grateful for that. The fact that you are trying to enrich yourself through positive development is a commendable act. People who want to feel good about life and create positive environments are warriors in my eyes!

Understand my warrior friends, trying to keep motivated and stay positive out there is hard sometimes.  I am proud of you!  Many people want to complain about not being happy. They are frustrated with little things in life. We all have something special about us that gives us a tool to help become that vessel out there for each other.  If your focus is keeping you from reaching your goals, you just may need to change your approach!

"Help me, Help you get through what it is that is bothering you.  I am opening up the "Ask Valerie," page for you.  You can submit questions and I will post them on that page in the blog.  If you prefer to keep them private I will respond by email only. You can look at it like a "Dear Abby" page similarity if you like.  I love to help others.  If this helps you it can be the beginning of something wonderful!  Lets start talking and inspiring positive communication to support each other and keep moving forward!

Everyday life is a special gift to you.  Unwrap you gift with care and use it wisely.  You are leaving fingerprints on the map of the world. "You are art"... Ok, stop leaving fingerprints on my monitor and enjoy your day!~

Sometimes it just helps to talk about it.  I am here for you if you need me.  Email me your questions at: lifecoachurself@gmail.com  "Ask Valerie"

Have a great day and smile!~  much better...your gorgeous!

Real People, Real Art... "ART IN MOTION" ~

Martial Arts experts got together to creat a sense of hope and support to the people in Japan. It is nothing short of beautiful love for each other and the lengths to use their talents to show it...

Coming together for each in all ways help people to cope and handle life.  I am thankful to them for working so hard to create this for everyone. Japan should be very proud of them...

Enjoy~